Ukuyeka sisihloko esiye safumana ukubaluleka kwabantu abaninzi kwiminyaka yakutshanje. Kulo mongo, imalunga nokuyeka ungquzulwano lwethu lwengqondo, malunga nokuyeka iimeko ezidlulileyo zengqondo apho sisenokutsala ukubandezeleka okukhulu. Ngendlela efanayo, ukuyeka kukwanxulumene nolona loyiko luninzi, uloyiko lwekamva, umzekelo, yintoni enokuthi ilandele, okanye siyeke ukuswela ulwazi lwethu, siphelise eyethu imijikelo ekhohlakeleyo esizibekele yona, ethi yona isithintele ekutsaleleni izinto kobethu ubomi ezilungiselelwe thina.
Tsala ebomini bakho yonke into elungiselelwe wena
Kwelinye icala, ukwahlukana kusenokubhekisela kwiimeko ezimaxongo zobomi, ngokomzekelo, intsebenziswano esisithintelo kuthi, intsebenziswano esekelwe ekuxhomekekeni kuthi emva koko singakwazi ukuzikhulula kubo . Okanye iimeko ezimbi zasemsebenzini ezisenza singonwabi ngakumbi imihla ngemihla, kodwa asikwazi ukuzoba umgca wokugqibela entlabathini. Ngesi sizathu, ukukhulula sisihloko esibaluleke kakhulu kuthi njengabantu. Kwenye indawo bubuchule obuye balahleka kwihlabathi lanamhlanje. Thina njengabantu asifundiswa ukuba singakwazi njani ukujongana neengxabano ngaphandle kweengxaki, ukuba singakwazi njani ukuqalisa utshintsho ebomini bethu ngaphandle kokuwela emngxunyeni weemvakalelo ngenxa yoko. Ekupheleni kosuku kufuneka sizifundise ubugcisa bokukhulula kwakhona. Ndiyathetha, ewe wena, ewe kanye wena, ofunda eli nqaku ngoku, ungumdali wenyani yakho, ungumdali wobomi bakho, udala iinkolelo zakho + iinkolelo, uthatha isigqibo malunga nesikhokelo sakho. Ingqondo yakho kwaye unoxanduva lomntu wonke ngezigqibo zakho. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, ubugcisa bokuyeka bunokufundwa nguwe kuphela, kwaye nguwe kuphela onokuqinisekisa ukuba ufumana indlela yakho yokubuyela ekuzinzeni kwengqondo. Abanye abantu banokukubonisa indlela, banokusebenza njengenkxaso, kodwa ekugqibeleni kufuneka uthathe le ndlela wedwa.
Wonke umntu ungumdali wobomi bakhe, ungumyili wekamva lakhe kwaye ngenxa yesi sizathu unokudala ubomi obuhambelana ngokupheleleyo nemibono yakhe .. !!
Nguwe kuphela onokuzikhulula kulwakhiwo lwengqondo olubi kwaye udale ubomi kwakhona apho iinkalo ezintle zesicwangciso somphefumlo wakho zifezekiswa. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, isihloko sokuvumela ukuhamba sikwadibaniswa nokuzaliseka kwesicwangciso somphefumlo wethu okanye ukuzaliseka kwemibandela emihle yesicwangciso somphefumlo wethu.
Imiba emihle yesicwangciso somphefumlo wakho
Kulo mxholo, wonke umntu unomphefumlo wakhe, ubuqu bethu bokwenyani, intliziyo yethu enobubele, enovelwano, eshukumayo ephezulu, esichonga ngayo ngendlela ethile, kuxhomekeke kwinqanaba lemeko yethu yokuqonda. Kule nkalo, wonke umntu unento ebizwa ngokuba yisicwangciso somphefumlo. Isicwangciso somphefumlo sisicwangciso esichazwe kwangaphambili apho yonke iminqweno yethu, iinjongo zobomi, iindlela zobomi, amava achazwe kwangaphambili, njl. Ukucaciswa kwesicwangciso somphefumlo wethu kuqala ngaphambi kokuba sizalwe, xa umphefumlo wethu usemhlabeni emva kokufa (inethiwekhi yamandla / inqanaba elisebenzela ukudityaniswa, ukuzalwa ngokutsha kunye nokuphuhliswa okuqhubekayo komphefumlo wethu - ukuba ungabhidaniswa nobomi emva kokufa obusasazwa icawe - kukho into eyohluke ngokupheleleyo) uceba ubomi bakhe bexesha elizayo. Kulo mongo, isicwangciso esipheleleyo senzelwe ubomi bethu obuzayo, apho zonke iinjongo zethu, iminqweno kunye namava azayo achazwe kwangaphambili. Ekugqibeleni, zonke ezi ngamava ukuba umphefumlo wethu, okanye ubuqu bethu bokwenyani, obungathanda ukuzifumana kubomi obulandelayo. La mava achazwe kwangaphambili akufuneki ukuba enzeka 1:1; Ewe, ekugqibeleni, amava amabi kunye namava afanelekileyo agxininiswe kwesi sicwangciso somphefumlo (umphefumlo wethu awuhluli phakathi kwezinto ezilungileyo nezimbi, kodwa yonke into ivavanywa njengamava angathathi hlangothi, njengokuba indalo yethu yonke ingagwebi amaphupha ethu + iminqweno ngokwalo mgaqo. ufumana Kanye into oyiyo kunye nento oyikhuphayo, nokuba iyakha okanye ayilunganga, akunamsebenzi.
Wonke umntu unoxanduva lokuba unamava akhuthazayo okanye amabi, nokuba aqinisekisa iingcinga ezakhayo okanye ezimbi ezingqondweni yakhe..!!
Ngenxa yenkululeko yethu yokuzikhethela, sinokwenza ukuzimela kwaye sikhethe ukuba sifumana amava alungileyo okanye amabi (ukungcangcazela okuphezulu / ukukhanya okunamandla okanye ukungcangcazela okuphantsi / amava axineneyo ngamandla). Nokuba yonke into eyenzekayo ebomini bethu inxulumene nokuzaliseka kwesicwangciso somphefumlo wethu, oko kukuthi umntu othe ngokuzithandela wagqiba ukusela yonke imihla kwaye ngaxa lithile uyafa ngenxa yayo - ke oku kuya kuba yinxalenye yesicwangciso somphefumlo wakhe, sisazama ukufezekiswa kobomi obulungileyo, ukufezekiswa kwemiba emihle yesicwangciso somphefumlo wethu.
Ukuvumela ukuhamba ngokunxulumene nemiba emihle yesicwangciso somphefumlo wethu
Ukuphumeza oku, ukuyekelela kuyeyona nto iphambili. Kuphela xa silawula ukujongana neengxabano zethu zangaphambili, xa sizahlula kwiimeko zobomi obuzinzileyo, sithathe inyathelo lokuqala kwaye siqalise utshintsho, kuphela emva koko siya kuziqonda ngokuzenzekelayo zonke iinkalo ezintle zesicwangciso somphefumlo wethu. Ekugqibeleni, utsala izinto ezintle ezilungiselelwe wena ebomini bakho. Ndikwanalo nomzekelo omncinci woku: phakathi kunyaka ophelileyo, intombi yam ngelo xesha yahlukana nam, nto leyo eyandothusa kakhulu. Ngenxa yoko, ubomi bam bonke babuxhomekeke kuye yaye andizange ndikwazi ukumyeka. Ngenxa yoko, ndabandezeleka kakhulu ngenxa yokuxhomekeka kwam kukuzidala kwaye ndandiziva ndisiba mbi imihla ngemihla. Ngexesha elithile ndakwazi ukuzoba umgca esantini kwaye ndamyeka. Kungelo xesha ke apho ndathi ngokuthe ngcembe ndaphucuka ndaza ndatsala izinto ezintle ebomini bam kwakhona. Ndiye ndadibana neqabane lam ngoku kwaye ndafumana ulonwabo olutsha kwakhona. Kodwa ukuba andizange ndiyeke, ngoko yonke into yayiza kuhlala ifanayo, ndandiza kuqhubeka ndiziva ndibuhlungu kwaye andizange ndilungele ubudlelwane obutsha, ngoko ndandiza kuqhubeka ndifumana kuphela imiba engalunganga yesicwangciso somphefumlo wam de Ngendenze umtsi. Ekupheleni kosuku, iziganeko ezinjalo zinokulinganiswa nohlobo lovavanyo, iziganeko ezibalulekileyo zobomi ezifuna ukusifundisa isifundo esibalulekileyo, ngokusisiseko isifundo sokukhulula.
Kuphela xa silawula ukuzahlula kwiingxabano zethu zengqondo kwakhona, xa silawula ukuyeka kwaye sizivule kwakhona ekufezekiseni indawo efanelekileyo, siphinde siqonde iinkalo ezintle zesicwangciso somphefumlo wethu .. !!
Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo-ntle yakho, kwimpilo-ntle yakho ngokwasemoyeni nangokomoya, ukuyeka, ukuzahlula kwiingcinga ezingapheliyo kunye neemeko zobomi ezingalunganga. Kulapho kuphela uya kutsala izinto ezintle ebomini bakho ezenzelwe wena, akukho mathandabuzo ngaloo nto. Unale nto engqondweni, hlala usempilweni, wonwabe kwaye uphile ubomi obuvisisanayo.
