Thina bantu besisoloko sizabalazela ukonwaba ukususela ekuqaleni kobukho bethu. Sizama izinto ezininzi kwaye sithatha ezona zihlukeneyo kwaye, ngaphezu kwazo zonke, iindlela ezinobungozi kakhulu ukuze sikwazi ukufumana / ukubonakalisa imvisiswano, ulonwabo kunye novuyo ebomini bethu kwakhona. Ekugqibeleni, oku kukwayinto esinika injongo yobomi, into ekuphuma kuyo usukelo lwethu. Sifuna ukuva iimvakalelo zothando, iimvakalelo zolonwabo kwakhona, ngokugqibeleleyo ngokusisigxina, nangaliphi na ixesha, kuyo nayiphi na indawo. Noko ke, ngokufuthi asikwazi ukufikelela olu sukelo. Sisoloko sizivumela ukuba silawulwe yingcinga eyonakalisayo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, senze into ebonakalayo ebonakala iphikisana ngokupheleleyo ekufezekiseni le njongo.
Fumana ulonwabo lokwenene
Kulo mongo, abantu abaninzi abakhangeli ulonwabo ngaphakathi kwabo, kodwa bahlala bekwihlabathi langaphandle. Umzekelo, ugxile kwizinto eziphathekayo, ufuna ukufumana imali eninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka, uhlale unee-smartphones zamva nje, uqhuba iimoto ezibizayo, ubucwebe, uthenge izinto zodidi oluphezulu, unxibe iimpahla ezinegama ezibizayo, ube nendlu enkulu kwaye, eyona nto ingcono kakhulu, fumana iqabane elinokwenza oko linika imvakalelo yokuba yinto exabisekileyo / ekhethekileyo (isiganeko sengqondo ejoliswe kwizinto eziphathekayo - i-EGO). Ke sijonge ulonwabo olucingelwayo ngaphandle, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha asonwabi nangayiphi na indlela, kodwa siye siqonde ngakumbi ukuba akukho nanye kwezi esonwabisayo nangayiphi na indlela. Oku kuyasebenza nakwiqabane, umzekelo. Abantu abaninzi badla ngokufuna iqabane. Ekugqibeleni, oku kukukhangela uthando, ukukhangela ukungazithandi kwakho, ozama ukufumana ngomnye umntu. Kodwa ekupheleni kosuku, oku akusebenzi. Ulonwabo kunye nothando alunakufumaneka ngaphandle, kwimali eninzi, ubunewunewu okanye kwiqabane, kodwa amandla okufumana ulonwabo, uthando kunye novuyo lulele emphefumlweni womntu wonke.
Zonke iinkalo, iimvakalelo, iingcinga, ulwazi kunye namacandelo sele engaphakathi kwethu. Ke ngoko kuxhomekeke kuthi kuphela ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwethu esiluqondayo kwakhona kwaye yeyiphi inguqulelo ehlala ifihliwe..!!
Isenokuvakala ngathi iyaphambana, kodwa le miba, ezi mvakalelo zihlala zikhona, zifuna nje ukuviwa / ukuqondwa kwakhona. Siyakwazi ukulungelelanisa imeko yethu yokuqonda kunye nala maza aphakamileyo nangaliphi na ixesha kwaye sinokonwaba kwakhona nangaliphi na ixesha.
Gxila kwizinto onazo endaweni yaloo nto ungenayo
Akukho ndlela yokonwaba, kuba ukonwaba yeyona ndlela. Kwelinye icala, oku kwenzeka nangokuzithanda kwethu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sizixabise, sizithande, sime ngokwethu kunye nesimilo sethu, ukuba siyathanda kwaye, ngaphezu kwako konke, sihloniphe onke amalungu ethu, nokuba ngawesimo esihle okanye esingalunganga (ukuzithanda makungaze kudityaniswe. nge-narcissism okanye ... ubhideke kunye ne-egoism). Sonke singamazwi okudala, izinto eziphilayo ezizodwa ezenza ezethu iinyani zisebenzisa ezethu iingcinga. Le nyaniso iyodwa isenza sibe zizidalwa ezinamandla nezinomtsalane. Kule nkalo, wonke umntu unamandla okuzithanda; Obu buchule bungaphakathi kuthi, kunokuba bukwilizwe langaphandle. Ukuba sihlala sijonge imvakalelo yothando okanye ulonwabo lwangaphandle, umzekelo, ngendlela yemali, iqabane okanye iziyobisi, oko akutshintshi imeko yethu yangoku, kuya kuba nje ukukhala ngoncedo lothando, ngenxa yethu. ukungazithandi . Kulo mongo, ulwalathiso lwengqondo yomntu luhlala lunxulunyaniswa nokuzithanda kwakhe. Umzekelo, awukwazi ukutsala ulonwabo okanye imvakalelo yokonwaba ebomini bakho ukuba uhlala ugxile kokuchaseneyo. Ukuba ugxile ekusweleni, awunakukwazi ukutsala intabalala ebomini bakho kwaye xa kufikwa kuloo nto, abantu abaninzi bagxila kuphela kwizinto ezingalunganga. Ngoko ke sikholisa ukuhlala sigxile kwizinto esiziphosayo, esingenazo, esizidingayo, endaweni yokugxila kwinto esinayo, into esiyiyo kunye nesiyiphumeleleyo, umzekelo.
Okukhona sinombulelo ngakumbi, kokukhona sigxila kwintabalala, kulonwabo kunye neemeko zobomi ezilungileyo - siqinisekisa oku ezingqondweni zethu, kokukhona siya kutsala ezi meko/zimeko..!!
Ukubonga ikwaligama eliphambili apha. Kufuneka siphinde sibe nombulelo ngento esinayo, sibulele isipho sobomi esithe satyhilwa kuthi, sinombulelo ngokuba ngumdali wenyaniso yethu, sibulele wonke umntu osinika umsa + uthando kunye nombulelo ngako konke oko abantu babe abasigatyayo, kodwa kwangaxeshanye basinike ithuba lokufumana imvakalelo enjalo. Sifanele sibe nombulelo ngaphezu kokukhalazela izinto ezincinane ezingeyomfuneko. Ukuba senjenjalo, siya kuphawula ukuba siya kufumana umbulelo ongakumbi. Sisoloko sifumana into esiyiyo kunye nento esiyikhanyisayo. Unale nto engqondweni, hlala usempilweni, wonwabe kwaye uphile ubomi obuvisisanayo.
