Ubomi bomntu bubonakala ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngezigaba apho intlungu ebuhlungu yentliziyo ikhona. Ubunzulu beentlungu buyahluka ngokuxhomekeke kumava kwaye kaninzi kusishiya thina bantu siziva sikhubazekile. Sinokucinga kuphela ngamava ahambelanayo, silahleke kule siphithiphithi sengqondo, sihlupheke ngakumbi nangakumbi kwaye ngenxa yoko silahlekelwe ngumbono wokukhanya okusilindileyo ekupheleni kombono. Ukukhanya okulinde nje ukuphila ngathi kwakhona. Yintoni abantu abaninzi abangayihoyiyo kulo mongo kukuba ukubetha kwentliziyo liqabane elibalulekileyo ebomini bethu kwaye intlungu enjalo inokuphilisa kakhulu kunye nokomeleza imeko yengqondo yomntu. Kweli candelo lilandelayo uya kufumanisa ukuba ungayinqoba njani intlungu, uzuze kuyo kwaye wonwabe kwakhona.

Ezona zifundo zibalaseleyo ebomini zifundwa ngeentlungu

Ngokusisiseko, yonke into ebomini bomntu ifanele ibe njengokuba injalo. Akukho meko yezinto eziphathekayo apho umntu wayenokufumana into eyahlukileyo, kuba kungenjalo into eyahlukileyo yayiza kwenzeka, ngoko umntu uya kuqonda uloliwe ohluke ngokupheleleyo wokucinga kwaye abe namava enqanaba elahlukileyo lobomi. Yiloo nto kanye ekhangeleka ngayo ngamava abuhlungu, amaxesha abonakala ngathi akrazule umhlaba phantsi kweenyawo zakho. Yonke into inesizathu, intsingiselo enzulu kwaye ekugqibeleni isebenzela ukukhula kwakho ngokomoya. Konke ukudibana nomntu, onke amava, nokuba abuhlungu kangakanani na, angena ngengqondo ebomini bethu kwaye aqalisa ithuba lokukhula. Kodwa sihlala sikufumanisa kunzima ukuphuma kwiintlungu. Sizigcina sivaleleke kwimo yokuqonda, exineneyo ngamandla kwaye siqhubeke sibandezeleka ngokungapheliyo. Kunzima kuthi ukugxila kwimiba elungileyo yemeko yangoku yokuqonda kwaye kulo mongo sihlala siphoswa lithuba lophuhliso lwethu olunamandla ngakumbi ukuba isithunzi esinjalo sihamba nayo. Onke amava abuhlungu asifundisa into kwaye ekugqibeleni akhokhelele ekubeni ufumane okungakumbi kuwe; ngokwale mbono, ucelwe yindalo ukuba uphile kwakhona, ufumane indlela yakho yokubuyela kwintlalontle, kuba uthando, ulonwabo, uxolo lwangaphakathi kunye nentabalala ziyimfuneko. ekhoyo ngokusisigxina, elinde nje ukubanjwa ngokukhutheleyo kwaye uphile ngokuqonda kwakhona. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni eyenzekayo ngoku ebomini bakho, nokuba yintoni na amava abuhlungu oye waba nawo, ekupheleni kosuku le nxalenye yobomi bakho iya kutshintsha ibe ngcono, akufanele uyithandabuze loo nto. Kuphela kuxa ufumene isithunzi kunye nokuphuma ebumnyameni okunokuthi ukuphiliswa ngokupheleleyo kwenzeke, kuphela xa ufunda isibonda esibi sobomi bakho. Ngeli xesha kufanele kutshiwo ukuba nam ndakhe ndafumana isiganeko esinjalo nam kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ndazibona ndikweyona nzonzobila yobomi bam ndaza ndacinga ukuba andisayi kuphinda ndiphume kule ntlungu inzulu. Ngoku ndingathanda ukusondeza eli bali kuwe ukuze ndikunike isibindi, ndikubonise ukuba yonke into inecala layo elihle kwaye nokuba neyona ntliziyo ibuhlungu kakhulu iya kudlula kwaye ingajikwa ibe yinto eyakhayo.

Amava abuhlungu abumbe ubomi bam

Kude kube malunga neenyanga ezi-3 ezidlulileyo ndandikwi-3 yeminyaka yobudlelwane. Olu lwalamano lwenzeka ngexesha apho ndandingekazikhathazi ngemibandela yokomoya. Ekuqaleni ndangena kobu budlelwane kuba ndandiziva ngathi sobabini sasifana kakhulu. Ngenene ndandingenazo iimvakalelo kuye, kodwa amandla angaziwayo andinqanda ukuba ndimxelele oku kwaye ndiye ndabandakanyeka kubudlelwane, into eyayingahambelani nengqondo yam kwaphela. Kwasekuqaleni wayendithanda kakhulu kwaye engumama kum, wayesoloko ekhona kum kwaye ebonakalisa uthando lwakhe olunzulu kum. Wandamkela ubomi bam bonke kwaye wandinika lonke uthando lwakhe. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ndaqala ukuba nolwazi lwam lokuqala kunye nokukhanya kwaye ndabelana naye ngale nto ngokukhawuleza. Sasithembana ngokupheleleyo, sazityand’ igila omnye komnye malunga nobomi bomnye nomnye ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye ngoko nangoko ndabelana naye ngamava am ngezo ngokuhlwa. Sakhula kunye saza safunda ubomi kunye. Wayendithemba ngokupheleleyo yaye akazange andigculele ngamava am, kunoko wayendithanda ngakumbi yaye wandinika unqabiseko olungakumbi. Ngelo xesha, ndaqala ukutshaya ukhula imihla ngemihla, kwaye kwimbono yanamhlanje ndingatsho ukuba oku kwakuyimfuneko ukuze ndikwazi ukucubungula konke ukugqithisa ngelo xesha. Noko ke, lo mjikelo ukhohlakeleyo awuzange uyeke yaye ngoko ndazahlula ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ndanditshaya ukhula yonke imihla kwaye ndandingahoyi intombi yam ngelo xesha ngakumbi nangakumbi. Iimpikiswano zavela kumthwalo wam endandizithwalise wona yaye ndandisiya ndindedwa. Ndawulimaza umphefumlo wakhe ngokunzulu, phantse andizange ndibe khona ngenxa yakhe, andizange ndenze nto naye, andizange ndimhoye nayiphi na ingqalelo kwaye ndithathe indalo yakhe, ubudlelwane, njengento nje. Ewe bendimthanda, kodwa bendiyiqonda nje kancinci loo nto. Ngexesha le-3 leminyaka yobudlelwane, ndavumela yonke into ukuba iphume ezandleni zam kwaye ndaqinisekisa ukuba uthando lwakhe kum luye lwaba luncinci. Wabandezeleka kakhulu kumlutha wam, ngenxa yokungakwazi kwam ukubonisa uthando lwam kuye. Ngelixesha ebesiya eba worse ekhala kakhulu kowabo emane ephakwa ngabanye ehlala esithukuthelweni nangona ebenaye umntu athandana naye kwaye ebephelelwe lithemba. Ekugqibeleni waqhawula waza waluphelisa ulwalamano. Ngolo rhatya xa wandibiza ndiphantsi kweempembelelo zotywala waza wandixelela oku, ndabubona ubunzulu bemeko. Endaweni yokuba ndiye kuye ndize ndibekho kuye, ndasuka ndalila, ndatshaya amalungu am kwaye ndingasayiqondi ihlabathi.

Ndawubona umphefumlo wam ombi

Ngobo busuku ndahlala ndiphaphile ubusuku bonke kwaye kwezo yure ndaqonda ukuba wayengumphefumlo wam ombini (kwiinyanga ezintathu ngaphambili ndafunda isihloko semiphefumlo emibini kakhulu, kodwa andizange ndicinge ukuba unokuba yiyo). Ukuba ungoyena mntu ndimthanda ngentliziyo yam yonke, ukuba isimilo sakhe senza intliziyo yam yabetha ngamandla. Ndaye ndakhwela ibhasi yokuqala ukuya kumbona ngentsimbi yesi-6 emva koko ndamlinda emvuleni kangangeeyure ezi-5. Ndifike ekugqibeleni ndigcwele intlungu, yonke into ibibuhlungu, bendikhala kabuhlungu ndithandazela ngaphakathi ukuba angabuphelisi obu budlelwane. Kodwa ke kuba ndingazange ndize kuye ngqo ngezolo, uye waqhuba enxilile waya kwitshomi yakhe ngethamsanqa elapho ngenxa yakhe (ngokungafaniyo nam ngobo busuku, ndandingekho kuye nangobusuku bokugqibela, nangona intliziyo yakhe yayifuna oko. ngaphakathi). Kwiiveki ezingaphambi kwayo, kwaye ngakumbi ngaloo mini, waluphelisa ubudlelwane waza wandixelela ngosuku olulandelayo. Ndashiya yonke into de kwaba lusuku lokugqibela. Ndamthembisa amaxesha amaninzi ukuba ndiyeke ukuze ekugqibeleni siphile kunye ngokupheleleyo uthando lwethu. Ndandisoloko ndinephupha lokuphuma emgxobhozweni ukuze ndimnike oko kumfaneleyo, kodwa andizange ndikwazi ukuyenza kwaye ekugqibeleni ndaphulukana naye. Yonke into yayisele iphelile. Ndaqonda ukuba wayengumphefumlo wam ombini, ngequbuliso wakhula uthando olungenakulinganiswa naye, kodwa kwangaxeshanye kwafuneka ndiqonde ukuba ndandimahlukanisa nokuziphatha kwam ebudeni beminyaka yaye ndandilutshabalalisa uthando lwakhe olunzulu ngam. Ukuqhelana okupheleleyo, ukudibanisa kwethu okunzulu, ngokukhawuleza kwanyamalala kwaye ndawela emngxunyeni ombi ngeentsuku / iiveki / iinyanga ezalandelayo. Ndahamba kulo lonke ubudlelwane ngeeyure yonke imihla, ndikhumbula onke amaxesha endingazange ndiwaxabise, uthando lwakhe, izipho zakhe zobuqu, ndikhumbula rhoqo yonke into endiyenzileyo kuye kwaye ngaphezu kwakho konke, ndaphila ngeentlungu zakhe. Ndavele ndayiqonda indlela asokola ngayo andakwazi nokuzixolela ngokuvumela lonto yenzeke ngoku ndandimthanda ngentliziyo yam yonke ndiqonda ukuba she was my dual soul. Ndandilila phantse yonke imihla ekuqaleni, ndikhumbula intlungu ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ndivumela ukuziva ndinetyala ukuba ndidle, kwaye ndilahlekelwa umbono wokukhanya ekupheleni kwesibhakabhaka. Ndiye ndakhe ndanezinye iingxaki ezibuhlungu ebomini bam, kodwa ayizange iqalise ukuthelekisa noku kwahlukana. Yayindikhathaza kakhulu kwaye ndafumana eyona ntlungu imbi ebomini bam. Kwiveki yokuqala yokwahlukana, ndade ndambhalela incwadi apho ndilungisa izinto ezininzi kwaye ndivumele ithemba livele (Le ncwadi iya kupapashwa ekupheleni konyaka kwaye ichaza ubomi bam, umsebenzi wam wokomoya, ubudlelwane kwaye, ngaphezu kwakho konke, uphuhliso lwam lobuqu ngokweenkcukacha ezinkulu ukwahlukana, ukuba ndakwazi njani ukoyisa intlungu kwaye ndonwabe kwakhona). Ewe, ewe, bendikhe ndaneengxaki ngeentsuku ezithile, ndaziva ndingcono, ndisebenza ngokunzulu nomphefumlo wam kwaye ndafunda okuninzi malunga nam nangentsebenziswano, imiphefumlo emibini kunye nobuhlobo. Noko ke, loo maxesha abuhlungu ayegquba yaye ndandicinga ukuba akanakuze aphele. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha kuye kwabangcono, iingcinga ngaye azizange zibe ncinane, kodwa zaqala kwakhona iingcinga zakhe ukuba zilungelelene ngakumbi, ukuba iingcinga azisekho buhlungu.

Imiphefumlo emibini ihlala ibonisa isimo sakho sengqondo..!!

Ndaye ndakhula ngakumbi imihla ngemihla kwaye ngokujongana ngokunzulu nentlungu yam ekugqibeleni ndakwazi ukuyiqonda kwaye ndizuze kuyo. Ngoku bendinombulelo kuye, ndinombulelo ngokuba nesibindi sokuhlukana nam, kuba yandinika ithuba lokuphelisa umlutha kunye nethuba lokuziphuhlisa ngokupheleleyo (umphefumlo wam ombini wandicela ukuba ndiyenze ngoku ekugqibeleni ukuze ndonwabe. /unempilo/uphelele). Nathi sasingezontshaba, kunoko sasinosukelo lokwakha ubuhlobo omnye nomnye. Ekuqaleni obu butshomi bebusiya buqatsela kuba bendimane ndimjongisa ngelithi andikwazi ukugqiba ndiyamthanda. Ngezo ntsuku NDANDIPHOXWA nguye. Ususe inkohliso yangaphakathi yokuba sibuyelane kwaye wabuyela kum imeko yam yengqondo yangoku, imeko yangaphakathi yokungakwazi, ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukungoneliseki kunye nokungalingani okunzulu kwangaphakathi. Ekuqaleni ndandibuhlungu kakhulu, ndandingaqondi ukuba akafuni umhlobo wangaphambili owayephelelwe lithemba kwaye ebambelele kuye, umntu ongenakukwazi ukumyeka kwaye angamvumeli, umntu omnqandayo. Nantso into ekhethekileyo malunga nemiphefumlo emibini! Imiphefumlo emibini ihlala ikubonisa apho umi khona ngoku, yintoni imeko yakho yengqondo 1: 1, engangxengwanga, ngqo kwaye inzima. Ukuba bendonwabile okanye bendihlambile ngokwamkela imeko yam, ngendingazange ndimxelele ukuba andinakukwazi ukunyamezela kwaye andinakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe, wayeya kusabela kakuhle kwaye abonakalise ngakumbi. imeko elungeleleneyo yokuqonda kwam (Ewe, ukuba Into oyicingayo noyivayo ngaphakathi iphuma ngaphandle, ngakumbi umphefumlo ombini uziva okanye ubona ngemeko yengqondo kwangoko). Ngenxa yale ndlela yokuziphatha, kwavela umgama omninzi, owawulungile ngokwendalo, kuba lo mgama unyukileyo undibonise ukuba andikabi seluxolweni nam kwaye kufuneka NDIPHUHLELE ngakumbi. Nangona la maxesha aqale andibuyisela umva kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo okuqina, njengoko nam ndandiziva ngathi ndihlala ndiphuma kwingqondo yam kwaye ndiyibeka ecaleni ngokuziphatha kwam, bendisakwazi ukuyibona imeko yam yengqondo emva koko kwaye ndaphuhliswa. ngale ndlela ngakumbi.

Intlungu yatshintsha!!

Le yindlela eyenzeka ngayo ixesha ukuba ndibengcono kwaye ndibengcono. Iintlungu zatshintsha kwaye zazinokuguqulwa zibe khaphukhaphu. Amaxesha apho ndandizele lunxunguphalo kunye nokuziva ndinetyala kuye kwancipha kwaye kwancipha kwaye iingcinga ezintle malunga naye zazuza isandla esiphezulu. Ndaye ndaqonda ukuba akukho malunga naloo nto, okanye ukuba ukuhlangana kunye nomphefumlo ombini akuyi kundiphilisa ngokupheleleyo, ukuba le yindlela kuphela, kodwa ndaqonda ukuba malunga nokufezeka kwakhona kwaye ngoko komeleza ikhonkco kumphefumlo ombini. ikhona kangangezihlandlo ezininzi incarnations ikhona ukuze akwazi ukuphilisa. Ndaqonda ukuba ngoku kufuneka ndonwabe ngokwam, ukuba ndifuna amandla othando lwam lwangaphakathi kwakhona. Xa uzithanda wena ngokupheleleyo udlulisela olu thando, olu vuyo kunye nokukhanya kwihlabathi langaphandle kwaye ufezekise imeko elungeleleneyo yokuqonda. Ekugqibeleni, umdlalo wemiphefumlo emibini ikwangokwamkela ngokupheleleyo iimeko zakho zobomi, imeko yakho yonke yokuqonda okanye ubomi bakho njengoko bunjalo. Ewe, emva kweenyanga ezi-3 iintlungu zaphantse zaphela ngokupheleleyo. Amaxesha apho iingcinga zakudala ezimbi zafika kwingqondo yam yemihla ngemihla zazinqabile kwaye ndaziva ndikhaphukhaphu ngakumbi kwakhona. Ndikwazile ukuphuma kwisiphithiphithi kwaye ndijonge phambili kwixesha elizayo ngokuzithemba, ndisazi ukuba ikamva lam elizayo liya kuba limangalisayo. Ndisinde kwelona xesha limnyama ebomini bam, ndasebenzisa intlungu ekuphuhliseni umntu kwaye ndonwaba kwakhona. Yiloo ndlela kanye eya kwenzeka ngayo nakuwe. Andikwazi ukuba ungubani okanye uvela phi, zithini iinjongo zakho ebomini kwaye yintoni ekuqhubayo wena buqu ebomini bakho. Kodwa ndiyazi into enye ngokuqinisekileyo, ndiyazi ukuba nokuba imeko yakho yangoku ibuhlungu kangakanani, nokuba ubomi bakho bungabonakala bubumnyama kangakanani kuwe ngalo mzuzu, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphinda ukufumane ukukhanya kwakho. Uya kukwazi kakuhle ngeli xesha kwaye ngaxa lithile uya kukwazi ukujonga ngasemva ngebhongo. Uya kuvuya kuba ukwazile ukoyisa le ntlungu kwaye ube ngumntu owomeleleyo oya kuba nguye. Ungaze uyithandabuze le nto okwesibini, ungaze uncame kwaye wazi ukuba incindi yobomi ilele ngaphakathi kuwe kwaye kungekudala iza kubakho kwakhona. Unale nto engqondweni, hlala usempilweni, wonwabe kwaye uphile ubomi obuvisisanayo.

Ndiyavuya ngayo nayiphi na inkxaso ❤