Ixesha langoku lithuba lanaphakade elisoloko likho, elikhoyo kwaye liya kuba njalo. Umzuzu owanda ngokungenasiphelo ohamba ngokuqhubekayo ebomini bethu kwaye uphembelela ngokusisigxina ubukho bethu. Ngoncedo lwangoku sinokubumba ubunyani bethu kwaye sifumane amandla kulo mthombo ungapheli. Kodwa ayingabo bonke abantu abawaziyo amandla akhoyo okudala; abantu abaninzi ngokungazi bayayiphepha into yangoku kwaye bahlala bezilahlekela kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo. Abantu abaninzi bafumana i-negativity kolu lwakhiwo lwengqondo kwaye ngaloo ndlela bazithwalisa ubunzima.

Ixesha elidlulileyo kunye nekamva - ulwakhiwo lweengcinga zethu

Ixesha elidlulileyo kunye nekamva lilolwakhiwo lwengqondo kuphela, kodwa alukho kwihlabathi lethu lomzimba, okanye ngaba ngoku sikwixa elidlulileyo okanye kwixesha elizayo? Ewe ibingekho into egqithileyo kwaye nekamva lisaphambi kwethu. Into esijikelezileyo yonke imihla kwaye isichaphazela nangaliphi na ixesha kunye nendawo singoku. Kubonwa ngolu hlobo, ixesha elidlulileyo nelizayo luhlobo nje lwangoku, inxalenye yalo mzuzu ukhula rhoqo. Into eyenzeke izolo yenzekile ngoku kwaye iza kwenzeka kwixesha elizayo nayo izokwenzeka ngoku.

Xa ndicinga ngokwam ukuya Becker ngomso kusasa, Mna ngoku sicinga le meko elizayo. Nje ukuba kuphume usuku olulandelayo, ndivumela le meko izayo ukuba ibekho apho ndenza khona esi senzo ngoku. Kodwa abantu abaninzi bachitha ixesha elininzi kwiingqondo zabo zangaphambili nakwikamva. Unokufumana amandla kule pateni yengqondo, umzekelo xa ndikhumbula iziganeko ezonwabileyo okanye xa ndicinga ngemeko yexesha elizayo esekelwe kwiingcamango zam zobuqu. Kubantu abaninzi, nangona kunjalo, okuchaseneyo kudla ngokukwenzeka kwaye batsale ukugxeka kolu loliwe lokucinga.

Umntu uba buhlungu ngenxa yexa elidluleyo okanye uzithethelela ngokusemthethweni iimvakalelo zokuba netyala ngeziganeko ezithile ezidluleyo engqondweni yakhe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abanye abantu bayaloyika ikamva, bayaloyika kwaye banokuhlala becinga ngale meko engekabikho ngokwasemzimbeni. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, abantu abaninzi bayanciphisa kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo bavumela uloyiko olwahlukeneyo luvele. Kodwa kutheni kufuneka ndizistressa ngenxa yalento? Kuba ndingumdali wenyani yam, ndiyakwazi ukukhetha into endiyenzayo ebomini kwaye yintoni kanye endidibana nayo. Ndiyakwazi ukukhupha uloyiko lwam kwi-bud kwaye oku kwenzeka ngokubakho ngoku.

Amandla angoku

Inyani yangoku inxulumene kwaye inokubunjwa ngokweminqweno yakho. Ndiyakwazi ukukhetha indlela enditshintsha ngayo isiseko sam sangoku sobukho, into endiyenzayo kunye nendlela endibumba ngayo ubomi bam. Intelekelelo yengqondo sisixhobo sokutshintsha esakho isipho. Ndiyakwazi ukuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wendlela endiyibumba ngayo into endiyiyo ngoku nokuba ubomi bam bufanele buhambe kweliphi icala. Ngaphandle koku, siziva sikhululekile ngoku kwaye sitsala amandla kwesi sakhiwo sikhoyo yonke indawo.

Ngokukhawuleza ukuba sihlala ngokwengqondo ngoku, siziva sikhaphukhaphu ngenxa yokuba asisaxhomekeki kwiziganeko eziphazamisa ingqondo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uhlale kwindawo yangoku rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Okukhona uhlala rhoqo kwaye ngokunzulu ngakumbi uphila kwiimeko zangoku, kokukhona isiphumo esincumisayo ibe nayo kumgaqo-siseko wakho womzimba nongokwengqondo. Uba nokuphumla ngakumbi, ukuzithemba ngakumbi, ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwaye ufumane umgangatho wobomi. Unale nto engqondweni, hlala usempilweni, wonwabe kwaye uphile ubomi bakho ngokuvisisana.