Ingqondo ye-egoistic liqabane elixinene ngamandla kwingqondo yokomoya kwaye inoxanduva lokuvelisa zonke iingcinga ezingalunganga. Ngoku sikwixesha apho sithi ngokuthe ngcembe sizinyibilikise iingqondo zethu ze-egoistic ukuze sikwazi ukwenza inyani eqinisekileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ingqondo ye-egoistic ihlala inedemoni kakhulu, kodwa oku kudemoni kukwayindlela yokuziphatha exineneyo. Ngokusisiseko, kungaphezulu malunga nokwamkela le ngqondo, ukuba nombulelo kuyo ukuze ukwazi ukuyinyibilikisa.

Ukwamkelwa kunye nombulelo

Sisoloko sigweba ezethu ingqondo yokuzingca, jonga oku njengento "embi", ingqondo enoxanduva olukhethekileyo kwisizukulwana seengcinga ezingalunganga, iimvakalelo kunye nezenzo kwaye ngokwenza njalo sihlala sinciphisa thina, ingqondo apho sihlala sithwala imithwalo esizibekela yona. Kodwa ngokusisiseko kubalulekile ukuba le ngqondo ungayijongi njengento embi okanye ephantsi. Ngokuchasene noko, kuya kufuneka uyixabise le ngqondo ngakumbi, kufuneka ube nombulelo ngokuba ikhona kwaye uyithathe njengenxalenye yobomi bakho. Ukwamkelwa ligama eliphambili apha. Ukuba awuyamkeli ingqondo ye-egoistic kwaye uyenze idemoni, emva koko uphuma kule nethiwekhi ixineneyo ngaphandle kokwazi. Kodwa ingqondo ye-egoistic iyinxalenye yenyani yomntu. Kufuneka sibe nombulelo kuye ngokusinika ithuba lokuba sibe namava ehlabathi elinabantu ababini. Onke amacala amnyama omntu, onke amava amabi kunye neziganeko ezidalwe yile ngqondo, zonke iintsuku ezimnyama esiye sazifumana ngenxa yengqondo yethu ye-egoistic yayiyimfuneko ekuphuhliseni kwethu. Zonke ezi ziganeko zingathandekiyo, apho ngamanye amaxesha sasiziva iintlungu ezingamandla kwaye kuye kwafuneka ukuba sibe namava entliziyo ebuhlungu kakhulu, eyona nto yayisenza somelele. Iimeko apho sasinxunguphele, sibuthathaka, singasakwazi ukuba senze ntoni kwaye usizi lwasasazeka ngaphakathi kuthi ekugqibeleni lwakhokelela ekubeni siphume ngamandla kuzo. Khumbula onke amaxesha abuhlungu ebomini bakho.

Uthando lwakho lokuqala olukhulu olwakushiyayo, umntu okhethekileyo ebomini bakho owafayo, iimeko kunye neziganeko apho wawungasazi ukuba wenzeni kwaye wabona kungekho ndlela yokuphuma. Ekugqibeleni, nokuba bezimnyama kangakanani na ezi ntsuku, uye wadlula kuzo kwaye ukwazi ukufumana ixesha elitsha apho izinto zazijonge phezulu kwakhona. Imizila emikhulu isoloko ilandelwa kukunyuka okukhulu kwaye ezi meko ziye zasinceda ukuba sibe ngabakhoyo namhlanje. Ezi meko zasenza somelele kwaye ekupheleni kosuku yayiziimeko nje ezifundisayo kuthi, amaxesha awandisiweyo kwaye atshintsha i-horizons yethu yobukrelekrele.

Wonke amava amabi anokuqinisekiswa kwawo

Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukuba ube namava anjalo ebomini bakho. Oku kuvumela ukukhula ukuba kwenzeke kwaye kukunika ithuba lokukhula ngaphaya kwakho. Ngaphandle koko, ufunda ukuxabisa imicimbi emihle, abahlobo kunye nezalamane, uthando, imvisiswano, uxolo kunye nokukhanya ngakumbi. Ngokomzekelo, unokuluxabisa njani uthando ngokupheleleyo ukuba belukho yaye walufumana kuphela? Kuphela kuxa ubonile awona anzonzobila anzulu apho uya kuthi uqonde ukuba zibaluleke kangakanani kwaye zizalisekisa iziganeko ebomini bakho/eziye wafumana kuzo zonke iintlobo zokulunga. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, umntu akufanele abe needemon, agwebe okanye ade agatye ingqondo yakhe ye-egoistic. Le ngqondo iyinxalenye yakho kwaye kufuneka ithandwe kwaye ixatyiswe kakhulu. Xa usenza oko, awunyibiliki kuphela le ngqondo, hayi, uyidibanisa ngakumbi kwinyani yakho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba utshintsho lunokwenzeka kule ngqondo. Umntu unombulelo ngokuba le ngqondo ikhona kwaye isoloko iliqabane ebomini bakhe. Umntu unombulelo kuba oku kuqonda kumvumele umntu ukuba abe namava emfundo amaninzi kwaye abe namava ombini wobomi. Uyayibulela le ngqondo kwaye uyamkele njengengqondo efundisayo ebisoloko iluncedo kuwe. Ukuba wenza oko kwaye wamkele ngokupheleleyo le ngqondo kwakhona kwaye ube nombulelo kuyo, ngoko into emangalisayo iya kwenzeka ngaxeshanye kwaye kukuphilisa kwangaphakathi. Uphilisa ibhondi engalunganga onayo ngale ngqondo kwaye uguqule olo nxibelelwano lube luthando. Eli linyathelo kanye elibalulekileyo ekukwazini ukudala ubunyani obuqaqambileyo / obulungileyo. Kuya kufuneka ube nombulelo kwaye uguqule zonke iingcinga ezingalunganga zibe zezakhayo, oku kuvula indlela apho impiliso kunye noxolo lwangaphakathi lunokoyisa ekugqibeleni. Unale nto engqondweni, hlala usempilweni, wonwabe kwaye uphile ubomi obuvisisanayo.

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