Ubomi bomntu busoloko buhamba nezigaba apho umntu azibhaqe enzonzobileni ezele ziintlungu nokubandezeleka. Ezi zigaba zibuhlungu kakhulu kwaye zikhatshwa yimvakalelo yovuyo olungenakufikelelwa. Umntu uziva ebuhlungu ngokunzulu, akaziva nakuphi na unxibelelwano lwangaphakathi lweemvakalelo kwaye uvakalelwa ngokungathi ubomi abusenantsingiselo kuye ngokwakhe. Usenokuwela kudandatheko olunzulu yaye ungasakholelwa ukuba imeko ingaphucuka nangayiphi na indlela. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi buhlala bunezahluko ezitsha ozigcinele zona, izahluko apho kubhalwe ibali elitsha, ibali elihamba nolona lonwabo lunzulu kunye nolonwabo ebomini. Ukuthembela ligama eliphambili apha. Kubalulekile ukuba nokholo ebomini okanye kunoko kulonwabo lwakho oluphindaphindiweyo.

Ubomi buhlala bunolonwabo olutsha olugcinelwe wena

Uthando ekugqibeleni lungumthombo wamandla, oko kukuthi amandla asulungekileyo, angangxengwanga alele nzulu kwiqokobhe lomntu wonke. Thina bantu siyakwazi ukutsala amandla obomi obusisigxina kulo mthombo uphantse ungapheli. Ewe, kwindawo ethile ebomini imvakalelo yothando ikuqhubela phambili, ikugcina uhamba kwaye unqumla nakwiintlambo ezinzulu. Ngale ndlela, wonke umntu uzama ukufumana uthando. Uthando, uxolo lwangaphakathi, imvisiswano, ulonwabo kunye novuyo ziimvakalelo ezinzulu ezinika ubomi bethu intsingiselo enzulu. Kulo mongo, wonke umntu ufuna kuphela ukuba wenza kakuhle, ukuba avunyelwe ukufumana uthando kwaye akhule ngokuhlalisana ngoxolo. Endaweni ethile thina bantu sikhangela olu thando kwaye ke senze konke ukuze sikwazi ukufumana oku kuphezulu kuzo zonke iimvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, thina bantu sihlala sizifumana sikwinzonzobila enzulu kwaye sifumana ezona meko zimnyama. Iimeko ezinjalo, ezibonakala ngathi zisiphosa umva ngokupheleleyo ekuphuhliseni kwethu (ukuzinyanzelisa ubuxoki) kwaye zisenze sibe nokubandezeleka kwengqondo kulo mba, ngoko ke kwakhona mnyama ngokufutshane umbono wethu wobomi obuzaliswe ukukhanya kunye nokungakhathali. Kwezi zigaba zobomi, umntu ngokufuthi akasiqondi isizathu sokubandezeleka kwakhe yaye ngokwethuku ucingela ukuba okokuqala akusayi kuba ngcono yaye okwesibini kukuba ugwetyelwe ukubandezeleka.

Unoxanduva lokuba unengqondo entle okanye engalunganga engqondweni yakho yenziwe ngokusemthethweni..!!

Kodwa akunjalo, ngokuchaseneyo. Okokuqala, kufanele kuthiwe nguwe obekek’ ityala ngokubandezeleka kobomi bakho. Omnye ngumdali wemeko yomntu kwaye unokukhetha ukusemthethweni / ukuqonda uvuyo okanye usizi kwingqondo yakhe. Kakade ke, oko kuvakala kulula ukuthetha kunokukwenza, kuba iimeko ezininzi zizele yi-resonance engalunganga kangangokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba uqonde iingcamango ezonwabileyo okanye ezintle. Noko ke, ubani unembopheleleko yokuba ubani ufumana ulonwabo okanye ukungonwabi. Kulo mongo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba eyakho ingqondo itsala into odibana nayo ngengqondo. Umntu ongazange anike uthando lwakhe kwabanye abantu okanye ohlala ehlaziya iingcamango ezingalunganga / amabhongo uya kuqhubeka nokutsala oko kubomi bakhe (umthetho we-resonance).

Wonke amava anentsingiselo yawo enzulu

Kwelinye icala, kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukuqonda ukuba zonke iimeko, zonke iinkalo zobomi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zimnyama kangakanani na, zinentsingiselo enzulu ngakumbi, zisifundisa isifundo esibalulekileyo. Akukho nto ixhomekeke kwinto ecingelwayo, yonke into ilandela isicwangciso esingqongqo, yonke into inentsingiselo yayo enzulu, inesizathu esithile. Ngokuchanekileyo, ukubandezeleka kukabani kunonobangela othile, isizathu esithile. Kwelinye icala, amaxesha amnyama obomi, okanye amaxesha apho siziva sibi kakhulu, asenza siqonde ukuswela kwethu unxibelelwano kumhlaba ongcwele. Bakwenza kucace kuthi ngeyona ndlela ibuhlungu ukuba asinakuzithanda ngalo mzuzu kanye, ukuba sijongela phantsi ingqondo yethu yokomoya kwaye sivumela ingqondo yethu exineneyo ephantsi, enamandla (ego) isilawule ngokwasemoyeni. Ezi meko ngokoqobo zigungxula iindawo zethu zomthunzi phezulu kwaye zizizise phambi kwamehlo ethu ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo. Ngamaxesha anjalo, sisoloko sicelwa ukuba ekugqibeleni sizijonge, ukuze ekugqibeleni sikwazi ukuhamba ngendlela eya ekuzithandeni. Ukuzithanda ngoko ke kubalulekile. Umntu ongazithandiyo, umzekelo, akanako ukwenza naluphi na uthando kwabanye abantu, ngendalo, kwezinye izinto eziphilayo okanye ubomi ngokwabo. Ke ngoko siyacelwa ukuba sijonge ubomi bethu ukuze sikwazi ukutshintsha iimeko zethu ngokusekelwe koku, ukuze siphinde sonwabe. Ezi meko ekugqibeleni zisebenzela impilo-ntle yethu yobuqu, zisivumela ukuba sikhule ngokwasengqondweni nangokomoya, siphuhlise ngakumbi kwaye basiqhubele phambili ebomini.

Awona maxesha abuhlungu ebomini amenza umntu avuke..!!

Ezona zifundo zibalaseleyo ebomini zifundwa ngeentlungu. La maxesha amnyama ayinxalenye yobomi bethu kwaye avuse amandla ethu angaphakathi. Umntu oye waphila kwintlungu enzulu yentliziyo kwaye uye wabona enzonzobileni yokubandezeleka kwakhe unokuthi emva koko abe yinyani, ubomi bokwenyani. Ungene kule meko ubuthathaka kwaye uphume kuyo ngamandla. Ekugqibeleni, emva kokwehla okukhulu, ukunyuka okunamandla kuhlala kukulindile. Le yindlela ubomi obunyaniswe ngayo ekugqibeleni. Ngenxa yomthetho wesigqi kunye nokungcangcazela, akunakuba ngenye indlela. Nokuba imeko yakho imbi kangakanani na, ekupheleni kosuku elinye inqanaba lobomi likulindile eliya kuzaliswa yijoie de vivre, uthando kunye nolonwabo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuqina kuya kuba kuhle ngakumbi emva koko kunangaphambili.

Emva kokuwela enzonzobila enzulu, ibhalansi yangaphakathi kunye nokuzinza kubuyela kubomi bomntu..!!

Uwele enzonzobileni yakho ebuhlungu yaye umile nje encotsheni yentaba ujonge ngasemva kumhlaba owenziwe ngamava angenakubalwa, imeko yengqondo nengokweemvakalelo ekukhumbuzayo ukuba umgama omde kangakanani na ebomini. Ungakanani umntu ngoku abuyele ekuzithandeni kwakhe kwaye ulwele ukukwazi ukonwaba nokonwaba. Ngale ndlela hlala usempilweni, wonwabe kwaye uphile ubomi obuvisisanayo.