Ukuzithanda okuqinileyo kwenza isiseko sobomi apho singafumani nje ubuninzi, uxolo kunye nolonwabo, kodwa siphinde sitsale iimeko ebomini bethu ezingasekelwanga ekusweleni, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo okuhambelana nokuzithanda kwethu. Nangona kunjalo, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje eliqhutywa yinkqubo, bambalwa kakhulu abantu abaziva bezithanda kakhulu.Ukunqongophala konxibelelwano nendalo, phantse naluphi na ulwazi lwemvelaphi yomntu - engayazi into eyodwa kunye nokukhethekileyo komntu), ...

Njengoko kukhankanyiwe izihlandlo ezininzi kwamanye amanqaku am, ukuzithanda kungumthombo wamandla obomi osetyenziswa ngabantu abambalwa namhlanje. Kulo mongo, ngenxa yenkqubo yenkohliso kunye nokusebenza ngokugqithisileyo kweyethu ingqondo ye-EGO, ngokudityaniswa nemeko ye-diharmonious ehambelanayo, sihlala sikwenza njalo. ...

Njengoko bendihlala ndikhankanya kwizicatshulwa zam, wonke umntu unezandi zokungcangcazela, ukuchaneka, kwanemeko yokuqonda komntu, ekuthi, njengoko kusaziwa, ubunyani bakhe buvela, bunezakhe zokungcangcazela. Apha umntu ukwathanda ukuthetha ngemeko edlamkileyo, ethi yona inyuse okanye icuthe amaza ayo. Iingcinga ezingalunganga zinciphisa ukuphindaphindeka kwethu, isiphumo kukuxinana kwemizimba yethu enamandla, nto leyo engumthwalo oye utshintshelwe kumzimba wethu wenyama. Iingcinga ezilungileyo zongeza ezethu rhoqo, ezikhokelela ekubeni a ...

Ukuzithanda, isihloko abantu abaninzi ngakumbi abajongene naso ngoku. Umntu akufunekanga athelekise ukuzithanda ngokuzigwagwisa, ukuzigwagwisa okanye nokuba nenkani, okuchasene noko kunjalo. Ukuzithanda kubalulekile ukuze ubani aphumelele, ekuqondeni imeko yokuqonda apho kuvela khona inyaniso eqinisekileyo. Abantu abangazithandiyo, abanokuzithemba okuncinci, ...

Uthando lusisiseko sayo yonke impiliso. Ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuzithanda kwethu yeyona nto ibalulekileyo xa kufikwa kwimpilo yethu. Okukhona sizithanda, sizamkela kwaye sizamkele ngokwalo mxholo, kokukhona kuya kuba kuhle kumgaqo-siseko wethu womzimba nengqondo. Kwangaxeshanye, ukuzithanda okuqinileyo kukhokelela ekufikeleleni okungcono kakhulu kwabanye abantu nakwimekobume yethu yentlalo ngokubanzi. Njengangaphakathi, nangaphandle. Ukuzithanda kwethu ke ngoko kudluliselwa kwihlabathi lethu langaphandle. Isiphumo kukuba okokuqala sijonga ubomi kwakhona ukusuka kwimeko entle yokuqonda kwaye okwesibini, ngalo mphumo, sitsala yonke into ebomini bethu esinika imvakalelo elungileyo. ...

Kweli xesha liphezulu, abantu abaninzi ngakumbi badibana namaqabane abo omphefumlo okanye baqaphele amaqabane abo omphefumlo, abathe badibana nabo ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngenxa yokuzalwa okungenakubalwa. Kwelinye icala, abantu baphinda badibane nomphefumlo wabo kabini, inkqubo entsonkothileyo edla ngokunxulunyaniswa nokubandezeleka okukhulu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ke badibana nomphefumlo wabo wewele. Ndichaza umahluko phakathi konxibelelwano lwemiphefumlo emibini ngokweenkcukacha kweli nqaku: “Kutheni imiphefumlo emibini kunye nemiphefumlo engamawele ayifani (inkqubo yomphefumlo wesibini - iqabane lomphefumlo wenyaniso)". ...